How To Get Yourself To Stop stressing about others
Being part of today’s modern life comes with great responsibilities and stress.
We consistently have to think about how our actions impact those around us, whether it’s work related or personal. Point is where people are involved so is stress.
How can we cope and learn to deal with this stress and have a happier and healthier life? After all we have one life, so we better enjoy that life and not let others sour it.
Many people struggle with coping with work stress or what other people carry onto you, because let’s face it emotions are severely contagious.
I’ve learned during the years how to deal with external stress in the following way:
- Just remind yourself, you cannot control what people around you say or do. It does not help getting upset about someone else’s action. This level of stress is easier to deal with when you are not personally involved with the person. For example: why get upset with a co-worker or a person in traffic when at the end of the day what they do and how they do it may have a negative reaction on you but you don’t have to concern yourself about their actions, because you are in control of how you feel and how you deal with it.
- It’s easier to deal with external situations when you realize, hey I can’t control what others do or think of me and f*** that sh** in anyways, because when we care to that extent it then makes us feel judged, anxious, stressed and just not good enough. And I am sorry, I just don’t have time for that.
How To Stop Yourself from Stressing About Others:
- Reflect. You have to first assess why do you feel the way you do. When we do this, we also train ourselves psychologically and physiologically to pick up the problem before it you burst of stress. Prevention is better than treatment.
- Analyze. Now you have to determine what your reaction to the event will be. What is an appropriate response? Is it worth it?
- Breath. Don’t forget to breath. When we take short breaths we tend to feel more stressed, so breath in through the nose and out through the mouth if you can. If necessary take walk to calm your nerves. There is no shame in calming yourself if you feel worked up.
- React. Remember you cannot control peoples actions and better yet their reactions. So keep in mind you are not in control of them you are however in control of your emotions and this is powerful. So forget about them, you are important not them. Stay mindful of your feelings and actions. You determine your happiness not them.
- Know your values.
When life is getting you down (when I say life I am referring to people) kick that thought of them and their control over you to the curve and remember the things you can control:
- Your feelings & thoughts
- What you eat
- Working out
- What you read
- Who you follow on social media
- Who your friends are
- Your sleep routine
- How you speak to yourself
- The boundaries you set
- Who and when you ask for help
- And many more
We need to know how to stop stressing about others and live our best lives!
