Being over 25 doesn’t really feel all that different. The only major different thing is your circumstances. Things and people around you change. I thought I would share with you what has stood out for me during my time on this amazing planet, I believe some of you feel exactly the same as I do.
- It’s okay not too be married or have babies yet.
Okay so back story. Both of my sisters (I’m the baby) got married at the age of 24 and had children at the age (and before) 25. So here I am, I went with the
let’s get educated first, enjoy life and pursue a career path. This was def the best option for me, because I was a know-it all teenager until basically well, 25.
I am now at an age where I’ve mastered the art of studying cause that’s all I knew for years! So I am older and wiser now, less arrogant which is great! My boyfriend
that I love more than anything helped me mature so much it’s not even funny. Anyways, back to the topic.
I choose the life I have now. And sometimes I compare mine to others, this is normal thanks to social media. Then a depressing feeling creeps over you.
It’s okay! When you reach my age your body does something really strange, it starts craving children and marriage. This is normal. As humans we don’t want to be
alone and we want to continue our gene pull and have commitment. It’s as simple as that! Our lives are not the same and should not be measured on the same level.
If you read this and you have children you are blessed. I am an auntie of 5 children and I love them so much!
2. It’s okay to have acne as an adult.
Hey no-one is perfect, and having adult acne is manageable. If you want to know how I got rid of mine please click here.
What I want to say is, your partner loves you for who you are, not for what your skin looks like. You are beautiful even with that white head on your nose! Don’t
pop it Karen! Your acne and scars appear worse to yourself in comparison to how other people see it. It’s manageable, you just need to learn how to take care
of your skin, cause you damn special!
3. It’s Okay If He doesn’t Like All your cooking
My fellow ladies, yes your man will always love his mothers cooking, they grew up with it! I have failed at so many dishes, but yet won his heart with many, it
just takes time. I love my boyfriends mother and her cooking is awesome! That’s why I will never be insulted if he says he doesn’t like the dish, it’s hard
especially when you worked 8 hours then do an intense workout and need to cook. Not gonna lie, I want to slap him with my spoon sometimes but then it passes.
We are not their mothers and it’s okay, they will love some of our unique dishes too.
4. It’s okay if he wants to play games instead of watching a movie.
We are all adults here. If you share your home with another person, things change. Good changes don’t get me wrong, I love living with my best friend. Time and privacy
as you knew it is gone. That’s why making time for yourself is so important! You don’t have to spend every second together to be a happy couple, no and in my
opinion if you have the need to do that it makes you codependant. It’s super important for you to now know what do I like as an individual? What makes me happy?
What fills the void for me? So as the title suggests, my boyfriend loves escaping in games and playing with his friends online. This is awesome, why? because
games promote logical thinking and puzzle solving capabilities. I know this because I frequently join them on their adventures! This is a way better way of spending
your time than going out getting blind drunk and ruining your entire weekend for one night of fun. No thank you. We’ve decided to dedicate our lives now to improve
ourselves as humans. Best decision ever. For me my time is spent playing games, learning new skills, yoga, excersise and sometimes reading. You need to know who
you are without your partner, who you are with your partner, and most importantly, that person needs to be the same. So it’s okay to do things appart.
5. It’s okay if not everyone likes you.
This is like a human thing to want everyone to like you. Then you feel accepted and good about yourself, right? Wrong. Having this approach or not adapting this will
bring you great misery. You cannot control how people feel about you, how they act around you, or who they are. It’s a scary world out there and people are defensive
and attacking. It’s normal, anyone in your life wants something from you, everyone has an agenda. And it’s okay because if you think about it, so do you.
You just need to learn how to play the game. Don’t get upset with people being mean, disrespectful or irritating. People are people and they are out of your
control. Try to think of it like this. If your a control freak, you can’t control everything. Don’t get upset over things you cannot control.
You can’t control the person in front of you swearing at you for driving to close in traffic. You have control over your reaction. You need to analyse yourself
and learn that “oh okay that person is angry at me for some reason, sorry dude” just let it slide off. It’s not worth it to work yourself up over trivial
childish things. You cannot control people.
